“If you don’t have to eat what’s in the bottom of your wallet, it’s been a good year …” Mary DeMarco
This was the line we heard every New Years Day from my grandmother before the feast/food orgy would begin. Its genesis is an old Sicilian proverb, but I have come to find out that the words, in one form or another, along with the tradition I am about to describe, are common among the poorer southern Mediterranean cultures. The concern is poverty and hunger and the talisman is a lentil.
Every New Year’s, lentils wrapped in paper were distributed to all in our family by my grandmother. The women opened their purses, the men their wallets, and for us there was a jar that was kept in the kitchen cabinet. On cue each family member would empty his or her cache of last year’s lentils into a pot. Once all were accounted for, one of us tossed the contents of the pot out the door, new lentils were distributed, and the food frenzy would begin.
The origins (or so I was told) of the ritual are that for Buona Fortuna (good luck) you were given lentils, but you must have them with you at all times. If during the year you were fortunate enough not to have been forced to eat them, it was a good year.
So as not to break the “snide” (Mojo, in NY Italian) everybody cheated. My mother and her sisters and all the aunts would put their lentils in a bag they would put way back in the closet (I guess having it in you apartment counted as being with you at all times); the men in wallets they never use; and our jar was put on a shelf we could never reach. On occasion, after I moved from NYC to college, I would receive a letter with a check from my father and in the bottom – lentils from my mother.
Claudia’s family’s Southern tradition is a meal of cornbread, black-eyed peas, ham hock, and cooked-to-hell greens with hot vinegar. I’ve eaten this for going on 30 years now, although with various bouts of vegetarianism the ham hock was at times left off the menu.
Of course, this is superstition and family idiosyncrasy, but it speaks from which we came. Not just my family, but also to all of us. We look to the New Year with hope and for renewal. In China, there are vast migrations of people traveling for specific family gatherings on their New Year calendar. In Mexico, the entire population parades at Midnight. However and wherever we do it, the rejection of what has happened and the promise that the future holds is an endearing human belief shared by all.
So, on New Years Eve or New Years Day come by and check out our blackboard, or just have a flatbread and a glass of wine or farm fresh eggs for breakfast, but come by and join us. There will be a bowl of lentils for new and old friends to take at the front door and there will be a pot to deposit them for those of you who have been carrying the weight of last year’s lentils these 365 days.
Claudia and I wish you all very good health, fulfilling days and wonderful nights for the year ahead.
See you soon,
Ed
